I’m writing for Five Minute Friday and this week’s prompt word is PERHAPS.
The word perhaps implies a
questioning of the current perspective or position, or a leniency in our
belief.
And perhaps we all need that more
than we realise.
Lately, I’ve heard some very strong opinions about what is happening, needs to happen, must happen, should be happening in various situations. I’ve got my own strong opinions about things and have expressed them to close friends at times, often in frustration.
My
two teenage girls have very strong opinions about each other and what the other
‘should’ be doing or not doing that would make their life easier. And like the two men looking at the number
nine or number six, they are both right in what they see, but both wrong in
their unwillingness to change positions and see the other side of the
issue. That takes maturity and
security.
You don’t have to be on social media for more than five minutes to realise that people have very strong opinions about current issues, and not always because they’ve thought through the issues or done the research. In the wake of major tragedies like the Texas floods and the injustices in the Middle East conflict, there are many strong opinions, strongly stated, and not always respectfully or carefully stated, and not always with a thought to how it will be received by those personally impacted by those events.
I’m
inclined to agree with J F Kennedy who said, ‘We enjoy the comfort of opinion
without the discomfort of thought.’
It’s
uncomfortable to think through something and realise that perhaps we were wrong
about something we have accepted and preached as true, maybe all our
lives. It’s much easier to not leave any
room for ‘perhaps I’m wrong’, but when we don’t, trust and credibility and
connection are undermined.
Does
that mean we should compromise on truth?
Not at all.
But
are we the guardians of truth? Really?
Or
is He?
He
is the Truth. He is the source of all
truth.
However,
when He, the Spirit of truth, has come, He will guide you into all
truth; for He will not speak on His own authority, but
whatever He hears He will speak; and He will tell you things to come. John
16:13
Jesus
said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. John 14:6
I
often say to my girls, and others who ask, that there aren’t two sides to every
story. There are actually three. There’s yours and mine - and His. And His view IS the truth in its
entirety. He is in the unique
position of being able to see both sides of the coin at.the.same.time. We cannot do that because we have our
limits.
“For My
thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your
ways My ways,” says the Lord.
“For as the heavens are higher than the earth, So are My ways
higher than your ways,
And My thoughts than your thoughts.” Isa
55:8-9
Because
we have our limits, there needs to be a perhaps in our thinking. We need to run back to Him when our view is
challenged, and we need to ask Him His perspective on it. We need to be lovers of truth. If our view is really the truth, then it
will withstand the scrutiny.
We
need to be like His disciples who basically said to Him, ‘I have no idea what
you’re on about, but I’m going to stay and find out!’
From
that time many of His disciples went back and walked with
Him no more. Then Jesus said to the twelve, “Do
you also want to go away?” But Simon
Peter answered Him, “Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of
eternal life. Also, we have come to believe and
know that You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.” John 6:66-69
And
perhaps we also need to ask Him WHY we’re feeling so strongly about it. Is it fear?
Is it insecurity? Is it
pain? Is it unforgiveness? Is it generational pride? Is it arrogance and ignorance – they
generally go together and feed each other.
Who
is wise and understanding among you? By his good conduct let him show his works
in the meekness of wisdom. But if you have bitter jealousy and selfish ambition
in your hearts, do not boast and be false to the truth. This is not the wisdom
that comes down from above, but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where
jealousy and selfish ambition exist, there will be disorder and every vile
practice. But the wisdom from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, open
to reason, full of mercy and good fruits, impartial and sincere. James 3:13-17
There
needs to be a perhaps in our thinking until we know what HE says about it, and
we’ve sat with the discomfort of the wrestle.
We need to recognize that we have our limits and only HE sees and knows
the whole truth of any situation. We
need to give the grace that is given to us, like Jesus did. He didn’t compromise truth – HE spoke it
clearly. But He was also full of grace
and looked beyond the surface of things.
And
the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we beheld His
glory, the glory as of the only begotten of the Father, full of grace and
truth. John 1:14
Can
we do the same as Jesus? Can we come at
the situation with a ‘perhaps’?
Perhaps
that person isn’t attacking me so much as reflecting their own pain and
insecurity.
Perhaps
that person has been through immense pain that I know nothing about and can’t
begin to understand.
Perhaps
that person is struggling under the weight of the load they carry that I don’t
see or feel.
Perhaps
there’s more to this issue than I am aware of, and I should be quick to listen so
I understand, instead of being quick to react and quick to speak.
Perhaps
what I’ve heard or read or been told isn’t completely true and I should dig
deeper.
Perhaps
we are both right, but we have limits in our capacity to see the whole
picture.
Perhaps
I should step onto their side of the coin, to see their perspective.
Perhaps
this issue is not a hill to die on after all.
Can
we live with the tension and discomfort of perhaps? Can we give grace for that without
compromising truth? Can we recognize
that HE is the guardian and protector of truth in its entirety, not us? Can we be wise and understanding enough to
live with perhaps in the lives of others?
Can we trust Him to guard and protect the truth while we live humbly
with each other?
He
has shown you, O man, what is good;
And what does the Lord require of you
But to do justly,
To love mercy,
And to walk humbly with your God? Micah
6:8
This
song is a beautiful reminder of that verse.
And
it all comes down to this
What You require of me
Love my neighbour as myself
And You above all things
[Chorus]
Act justly, love mercy, walk humbly
With You, God
In all things, in all ways, walk humbly
With You, God